If you're dating a Nigerian boyfriend, be aware of certain deceptive tactics he might use to gain access to your most treasured assets, while giving you false hopes of commitment. Before you fall for these tricks, understand that his intentions might not be as sincere as you think. Here are five common lies he might tell:
1. "Come spend the weekend at my place"
If you're just meeting him for the first time and he's already demanding sex, beware. He might say things like, "If you truly love me, you'll come sleep over," or "This shows you don't love me." Don't be desperate; learn to say "No" to his sex demands for the first 90 days of the relationship. If he ends the relationship over this, let him go. Giving in won't make him more likely to marry you.
2. "My family is against me marrying from another ethnic group"
He might claim that his family disapproves of him marrying outside his ethnic group but insists he loves you too much to leave. Stay alert; he's likely to choose his family's wishes over you. He's keeping you as a temporary sex companion while he searches for a bride from his ethnic group. Move on before he eventually tells you to.
3. "My stomach hurts, and only sex can cure it"
Virgin ladies, beware of this trick. He might say his stomach hurts and he needs sex to cure the pain, claiming he's serious about you and plans to marry you. This is a trap to get you into bed out of self-pity. Remember, he didn't have these pains before he met you and won't die if you refuse. Stand your ground and value your virtue.
4. "Let's meet at this specific place"
If he always arranges to meet you at a particular place or rents an apartment for your meetings but never takes you to his workplace or social gatherings, he's likely hiding somethingālike a wife. If he's playing this hiding game, he won't put a ring on your finger.
5. "Move in with me, but don't get pregnant"
He might ask you to move in with him, promising marriage plans, but advises against getting pregnant. Remember the saying, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" He wants the benefits without the commitment. A man who truly values you will be excited about starting a family, not ask you to get rid of a baby.
These are just a few of the many tricks used to lure women seeking serious relationships into short-term flings. Remember, you are gorgeous, important, and valuable. Don't let anyone lower your standards or disregard your virtues to satisfy their greed. Be sensitive to these games and protect yourself with a defensive armor of self-respect and awareness.