In negotiations, we are taught that the simplest way to get what you want is by pitching value to whoever you want something from. You don’t just walk up to someone and tell them to invest in your idea, you have to show them how they benefit from investing in your idea. If they feel that the benefit they get from doing so outweighs the losses if they don’t, they put their resources on what you are selling. Money, skill, time whatever.

Now, come to marriage. Marriage has for the longest been sold as something that benefits the woman.

1. You get to be called Mrs ABCD.

2. Married women are more respected than single women of the same age, same qualities.

3. You get to have someone to raise your children with.

4. You get to have someone when you die. You don’t die alone.

5. You get to have someone to provide for and protect you.

6. You get to have a beautiful and whole and respectable family.

7. You are granted money showers and a beautiful dress and a beautiful vacation to accompany your wedding celebration.

8. You will get somewhere to be buried.

Seeing this, it is clear as day, that the investor, is the woman. But she has been sold a lie, that she is the one seeking to be invested in, and unfortunately, since it has been sold for so long, and systemically so, many have taken the bait, hook, line and sinker.

Fortunately, we are in the information age and we are getting plenty of the insider details from those who are seeing pepper in this glamorized institution.

*Those who have effectively established their terms for investment, please do not battle today. Keep on with the enjoyment. We love to see it.

Wife has refused to cook rice, she is burnt with hot water.

The wife has been outside doing laundry and could not serve her husband lunch, spine is broken with firewood.

Husband cannot provide, wife provides and attributes it to him.

Wife has a scholarship to study abroad, husband has confiscated her passport and documents and she no longer can go.

Husband has been confronted because of cheating, he gets violent.

Wife just delivered a new baby, the husband is already running up and down seeking new skirt to enter.

Wife spends the whole day handling the unseen business around the home and handling the entire family’s mental load but at the end of the day, the husband can comfortably say, “what has she been doing all day?” “that can simply be delegated…” and more idiotic statements from the depths of their bowels.

The absurdity in this mental institution has no end but noooo, it was always the woman’s dream to marry.

That is why men like the red pill presidents are lying to their fellow men comfortably and confidently that they are the prize.

That is why they have audacity three hundred and five kilos to yap about how marriage is an opportunity to women and a responsibility for men.

That is why their followers have mouth to ask “but who has been planning their wedding since they were 8?”

That is why they have audacity to assert that your wife is not your relative (code for it doesn’t matter how you treat her).

That is why these shameless humans have brain to think that peeing on the toilet seat or failing to flush your own poop is asserting dominance in their households.

That is why their rebuttal to “ how exactly is marriage an opportunity for women and a responsibility for men ?” Is shouting “feminazi”, “Don’t debate with feminists like the luo above this comment…”, “Kevin Smauels this, Andrew Tate that, Amerix the other”, “Kawira Wa Mūtūri Okuyu women will be old women as the case in Italy lonely till death…you messed up your men by becoming single mothers.”

That is why these ardent red pill followers are out here blaming single mothers since they can never question why the prize left.

That is why, they have mouth from here to Burma talking about how uncultured a woman is for calling off her wedding minutes prior instead of asking why she pulled herself out of this contract before it’s commencement.

This is why they have oodocity to preach that your wife is your first daughter, not your agemates <very problematic statement but well…> ( code for you are free to police her but she cannot ask anything of you, accountability wise).

In the end this lie that has been told a million and seventy four times can only be debunked by understanding that we, WOMEN, are the investors.

We get to SELECT those whose projects we want to pour our resources into. Not get selected for them.

We get to DECIDE what we want to do with our skills, youth, money, time, connections.

We get to STEER our lives in the direction we want to see them heading.

We are in charge of our lives.

By pooling together with others with similar vision and understanding, we can reach our goals and live fulfilled.

Instead of waiting to be picked, pick yourself, build yourself oh Barbara, invest in and for yourself, enjoy yourself.

LIVE for yourself. You deserve it. You are worthy.