Relationships can be quite hard, wouldn't you agree? Are certain ages, you start to panic about it and even family and friends are not left out of the cause of your panic. Life and living is hard on its own, hustling to make ends meet and meet-up with bills with the way economy is going. You need to do more than one job just to keep yourself afloat. And then trying to keep a relationship is added to all these other things you need to. That is how you start thinking of an easy way out, and finding who is on the same mind as you.

This brings me to the issue of finding the ideal partner; the how of it, to what and the what-nots. My focus here is the what-nots.

One of the what-nots is the ever popular sexting or phone sex as you might want to call it. This is a fun thing to do when it is mutual and the reason behind it is because both parties want it. you would think. Well, I have a different view on it.

Someone once asked me for it and I felt this huge disappointment at the pit of my stomach, yes it may seem casual and fun but does it ever end there? Are you mentally prepared for the after-effect of the actions? The way it's being done these days is just ridiculous. Guys don't even think twice when they ask for it and girls had ended up being blackmailed and raped after they had taken the path without caution. I used to tell people that, if anyone uses your nude to try and blackmail you; tell them to go and dance with a hungry lion. 

What makes a guy tick? I always wonder. They tell you that people have different psychology that function for them. As much as I do understand where this may stem from but a part of me still battles with its acceptance. I love the idea of falling in love but when I did in the past, it wasn't pretty and made me understand that not love stories end happy but neither does it end to burn bridges, a thought to express in another article I would drop soon.  And when love does go sour, I'd say that it wouldn't be as if the two partners didn't do what is expected of them, many would even just wonder what went wrong. One of the 'what went wrongs' may actually be this idea of sexting.

Keeping a relationship happy, fun and funky is important. It goes beyond having the right size of boobs or bum or anything. It depends on what the two partners can come up with to make things right for them. A pretty face, a dazzling smile, a handsome body or a good bedmatics aren't the only things one can look out for in a relationship that's headed somewhere meaningful.

There are certain ages quite right that the pressure mounts up and most ladies feel as if that phone sex routine is what is going to keep their man in with them. They are so wrong. If care isn't taken and you take the wrong steps with this, with the wrong guy, it's a disaster of your own making. I am not saying that you should not be virtually sexual with your mates, but keep it at the minimal and only when he is not around. Try not to do it too often or he will get bored and then starts wondering what others out there have to give. You are 30+ and sending a nude picture of yourself to a partner, with your face in it. Tell me what the sense is in that action.  Is that the only thing you can come up with to keep your 'boyfriend' yours, because you're not getting younger and he must stay at all costs.

Come on!

Be creative and spontaneous, we have the power of words and imagination. Pain scenarios with him that match his fantasies. Use Google search pictures to buttress your wordy imageries. I tell people that voice is a powerful tool for women. I teach 'sex and kinky' classes and I can tell you this, bdsm may seem elaborate but the eroticism involved in it would be the seal many relationships and marriages actually need. 

"I want to grab you by the neck and blindfold you before I kiss every inch of your body," said in a sultry voice that will make him swallow. So ladies, don't resolve to send nudes of yourself to get your guys interested or stay interested. You can do video calls, but be aware so you don't get baited into showing pieces where screenshots can be taken.

Be creative with words and maybe join one of my classes and let me teach you how to be funky without trying too hard even as a conservative person.