When the people we love and trust hurt us, it can be devastating. We may wonder why they would cause us pain, and if they even care about our feelings. The truth is that we may never fully grasp the motives behind their behavior. They may be facing personal issues and difficulties that prevent them from meeting our expectations or addressing our needs.


For example, I had friends who always wanted to party late at night, while I had other responsibilities and commitments. I also had a traumatic experience as a child and I was constantly exposed to news of missing women and children, some of whom were found dead or mutilated. It was unsafe for me to go out with them. Sadly, they didn't understand my situation and thought I was selfish and indifferent to their wishes. I ended up distancing myself from them, and they didn't bother to see things from my point of view or check up on me. They resented me for not joining them and expected things from me that I couldn't deliver.

Often, we have unrealistic expectations from others without considering whether they're capable of meeting them. It's like expecting me to help you with car problems when I don't have a car, experience, or money. I realize that their hurtful behavior may not reflect their true feelings for me.

Sometimes, even family members can become distant and unresponsive. It may not be because they want something in return, but because they're struggling with something or feeling neglected. A simple call can make a huge difference by showing them that we care and easing their loneliness and despair.

In these situations, it's important not to take the hurt personally. It may have more to do with the other person's challenges than with us. A kind and open-minded attitude without harsh criticism is vital. Communicating our feelings honestly and respecting each other's limits is essential. We also need to take care of ourselves and not let others' behavior affect our self-worth and happiness. After all, we can only control our own actions, and forgiving and moving on from the past are necessary for healing.

Focusing on the positive aspects of our relationships and appreciating the people who truly love us for who we are is key. Respecting each other, showing empathy, and acknowledging our differences can lead to healthy and satisfying relationships.