As a single individual winding my way through the intricate landscape of modern relationships, I find myself contemplating moving along with the age-old ship that sails on the water floating that “men should assume the primary financial responsibilities in marriage.” However, my personal perspective challenges this narrative and seeks to redefine the roles we play in contemporary relationships.

In the traditional narrative, it has often been expected that men should shoulder the lion's share of financial responsibilities within a marriage. You know, “he is the head of the house” “he is the provider” and blah blah blah. This notion, while deeply ingrained in our society, carries a much deeper significance—it is a bit far from the very essence of partnership. 

Marriage, from my perspective, transcends the boundaries of mere romance; it's a sacred covenant where two souls unite their resources—emotional, intellectual, spiritual, academically, psychological, mental and financial—to move through the complex web of life together. My perspective champions the principles of partnership, and a profound understanding that both partners bring more to the table than just emotions, warm bodies, babies and what have you—they bring financial resources that should be shared among themselves to their best capacity.

Let's be clear: My viewpoint doesn't advocate for a one-size-fits-all approach to financial dynamics in relationships. No, I also believe, each couple's financial journey is as unique as their love story. Some may opt for an equitable distribution of financial responsibilities, while others may chart a distinct course tailored to their individual circumstances, others might be less reluctant with their pockets, whatever works for you!

For me, it all boils down to principle—an unwavering belief that marriage, or any partnership, is, at its core, a shared responsibility. It thrives on transparent communication, mutual aspirations, and an unyielding commitment to face life's financial challenges as a united front because we all know - MONEY is a major factor in life.

I firmly believe that if I earn more, it only makes sense to provide more. After all, who else am I saving this money for, if not to invest in my family's well-being and secure our future? Allow me to clarify, I'm not advocating for a rigid 'equal financial provision' mantra. What I am saying is that when you have the means to, why not contribute more?

It seems counterintuitive to withhold financial support when you're capable of providing. If we aspire to be seen as strong women, why not let this strength shine through in our financial contributions? I challenge not only myself but all strong women to reconsider leaving such responsibilities solely to the male folks. After all, it's our family, and strong women are known for looking out for family.

So, to those who might question the notion of whether supporting a spouse should be optional or obligatory, I present this perspective: In my world, as I wind through the complexities of modern relationships from a “single-hood” standpoint, it's not a matter of mere optionality or duty; it's a profound commitment I hope to embrace one day. It's an acknowledgment that, in marriage, we cease to be solitary individuals and become a dynamic duo—a team ready to tackle life's financial intricacies together. Because, at its core, it's not just "his" family or "her" family; it's "our" family, and our financial responsibilities echo the strength of that union—a union forged not solely in love, but in shared purpose and profound depth.

Otuosoro Ranjo