I touch on the topic of narcissism a lot because it's a very overpowering force that I consistently encounter. I was walking around, and my memory archive opened, and I remembered a situation where I was the “Golden Child”. I wasn't this woman’s daughter, but she used me to shame her daughter, and it took me about 20-something years to realize how deep it was. I was shocked to the core when I realized that I had participated, or rather been used to scapegoat someone. My point is, I have a well-rounded fat view of being the victim and the assailant. Except I wasn't directly attacking anybody, but my presence enabled chaos.

I remember always going to visit a friend that came into town, perhaps maybe once a year from London. Notably, a family friend. I would go to their hotel and stay with her. This happened to me often. Among family friends, there were a bunch of us only daughters that kept each other company. It was a relationship that was formed through our mothers, whether we liked it or not. We liked it, so no one was uncomfortable during these interactions. My poor friend would consistently be berated in front of me. Loud screams from her mom's throat would crack in the air. Her words were always harsh and direct: “YOU ARE STUPID”, with cold, cat stares. Then she would comfort her daughter. It was a twisted film to watch.

The kicker was I became the person she would compare her daughter to. In those moments, I always felt bad for my friend, but what could I really do? ...........................

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