I am currently 28 years old and would be writing about some stages in my adult life.

To be very honest, ever since my coming of age I've been aware of sexual acts and I've always felt comfortable talking about it sex and related topics.

My story is similar to almost every girl out there. As a young woman especially being an African igbo girl that got pregnant at 19, it's like a taboo to still feel or have emotions or even sexual desires especially after "bringing shame" to the family.

  There's a lot of stigmatisation especially from family. I am very glad I've been able to step away from such ideology and shame. I've been able to love myself and my body enough to be able to explore and learn new things. I've been able to discover new things as I go, become more vocal and I'm always ready to give any advice especially about what I've learnt over the years. I am very grateful to have such an amazing army of Women who not just took me in, but gave me more love than I could ask . Took my baby as their own and gave me the wings to fly always being there as a rock. I had to get a job while my boy was really little, I regret it though because we hardly bonded.

While I work, I had so many guys come my way but because I suffered postpartum depression but in denial, I couldn't find a way to feel attracted or turned on. I met a very patient man but I didn’t feel attracted to him. I think its also because during my pregnancy, I read a lot. Google became my best friend. I read that 70% of women that give birth tend to get pregnant again within 4 months. I know that couldn’t be me so I zeroed my mind from anything man related. Then a colleague asked why I wasn’t seeing anyone and I told her and she gave me dried watermelon powder to lick. Funny and insignificant as it may seem, it did the work and it did its work very well. . I feel like lots of women should try it too. As if it reset my entire body. I wasn’t still sexually active for 3 years because of fear of repeating my mistakes but I’m glad my body started to respond again.

I will be writing more on my journey and talking about a lot of things I’ve learnt through my years. I’ll be writing my journey to 30.